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Combining Finances and Talking to Your Spouse About Money<\/h2>\n

Money can be a challenging subject to bring up with your life partner. But despite how uncomfortable talking about our finances may makes us feel, the discussions eventually have to happen for you and your partner to build an honest and sustainable future together.<\/p>\n

We know this because arguing about money is the top predictor of if a couple will get divorced, according to a study by Kansas State University<\/a>. Money arguments often take longer to recover from and are often more intense than other spats, since they can involve criticisms of what your partner values and how they make decisions. So whether you\u2019re just moving into the financial part of a newer relationship or you\u2019ve been charting the waters for a while, here are some steps to ensure fairness and avoid financial surprises (and fights).<\/p>\n

To Merge Or Not To Merge\u2026That Is The Question<\/strong><\/h2>\n

One common area of tension can be around whether and when a couple should merge their checking and savings accounts and debts \u2014 along with how they will take on shared expenses. Before you decide to merge your finances, think about your level of commitment to each other. If you\u2019re not sure if you\u2019re in it for the long haul, merging your money isn\u2019t right for you. But if you are both ready for a long-term commitment, you should be in good shape to move forward.<\/p>\n

The thing to realize is that there\u2019s no right or wrong way to do it.\u00a0 What\u2019s important is to come up with an agreement that works for the two of you \u2014 and that you each maintain a degree of financial autonomy and control.\u00a0 It\u2019s not okay for one partner to control all the financial power and for the other to have to ask for permission at every turn.\u00a0 That\u2019s too parental.\u00a0 But whether you go with one joint account, separate ones, or a yours-mine-and-ours approach, the big key is talking about it.<\/p>\n

Combining finances takes time, compromise, planning and likely a few bumps on the road. The key is to handle the small issues as they come up so they don\u2019t become larger problems that can lead to bigger fights about money.<\/p>\n

How To Talk About Money<\/strong><\/h2>\n

To start your money conversations off on the right foot, pick just a few key topics to cover initially. Then set a specific time and place to talk. You\u2019ll want to do this when you are both in the right state of mind so you can think about things with limited distractions and dive in for an open and honest conversation. Here\u2019s a framework to follow.<\/p>\n

Cover The Basics<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Start your conversation by laying out the details of your individual financial situations. Yes, this will require significant disclosure on both sides, but ensures you\u2019re well aware of the big picture. Make sure you\u2019ve answered the following questions:<\/p>\n