Tell me a little bit about yourself and your family
I’m Laura, wife of one, mummy of five, living in Lancashire where I spend my days dealing with the rabble, writing, eating far too much chocolate and dreaming of winning the lottery. My children are Lewis, 12, Eva 4, Megan 3, Harrison 2 and Joseph who would have been 11 this year. Oh and Oscar, our dog, who is the cutest, fluffiest teddy bear but whose yaps could perforate your eardrums!
Tell me a little bit about your blog
I started my blog as a way of clawing back a little “me” time after the birth of my fifth baby. I was going through a tough time health wise and given my love of writing, decided that it would be quite therapeutic to document our lives whilst writing about the things, people and places we love. What initially started out as a hobby has grown into something that I now see myself doing full time when the children are in school.
What does a typical day in your life look like?
In a word – mayhem!! On a school day I have to get the four children up and out of bed, fed, washed, dressed, lunches made, bags packed, one off to high school, Eva off to primary school, Megan to pre-school, Harry to nursery, and then I work like a lunatic until it’s time to collect Harry again. On the days the youngest two are at home we like to be outdoors as much as possible, I find that running the children ragged is the best way to curb their silliness when it’s time for bed!
What were your pregnancies and labours like?
My pregnancies were hard work. Having children did not come easy for us and, after fifteen miscarriages and the loss of my second son at full term, I think it’s safe to say that being pregnant was possibly the scariest, most worrying thing that I have ever been through. I was treated as high risk with the youngest three, scanned every two weeks, monitored twice a week and induced early at 35 weeks, which landed both Harry and Megan in NICU for the first few weeks of their lives. I was very lucky with my labours that they were straight forward and, with the exception of Joseph and Eva, very fast.
How did you choose your children’s names?
We found out the sex of all five of the children and so we had plenty of time to choose their names before they were born. Lewis was always going to be Lewis, it was the first name that my ex husband and I came up with and at the time was relatively uncommon. We found it much harder to come up with Josephs name, going through three or four other names before we settled on his name, and now I can’t imagine it being anything else. I always wanted the name Eva for my daughter, as a huge fan of Eva Cassidy it was a name I adored, and the fact that it means “life” seemed perfect as our first rainbow baby after losing Joseph.
Megan was a tough one again, we named her two other names before we settled on Megan,
referring to her as those names throughout my pregnancy, and yet none of them felt right. Megan is so perfect for her, our “Megatron” as we like to call her. And for Harrison, it was the name that we would have chosen for Eva has she been a boy. We named him Harrison Joseph after his big brother and I truly believe that Joseph sent him for us.
What is your favourite film?
The Notebook. I could watch that film over and over and never get bored of it. I love the characters, the story line, the way that it was shot, it’s just such a beautiful film and I get goosebumps as soon as I hear the opening music. If you’re a bird, I’m a bird……..amazing!! *That’s one of my favourites too (plus Ryan Gosling = yum!)*
What is the best thing about being a parent?
The best thing is simply having a home that is filled with love and laughter, something which I always wished for but never dared to imagine that it would come true.
And what is the toughest?
For me, the toughest part is being a parent to a child who is no longer with us. I don’t think that anything can ever prepare you for that, nor how much it will hurt, then, now, or fifty years in the future.
How do you relax? In our house, there isn’t always the opportunity to relax, but every now and then I get a moment to snuggle up in bed with a book, eat Yorkie bars until they come out of my ears, or watch the trashiest reality TV shows.
Where is your favourite place – both as an individual and as a family?
My favourite place is our home. I know that’s very boring, but I am a real home bird and there is nowhere I would rather be. Even on holiday I find myself missing home and longing for my own bed!
What’s are your favourite and least favourite household chores?
My favourite? None! My least favourite? EVERYTHING!!! I hate chores, especially with my four. I could spend all day cleaning and tidying and it be like a bombsite within two minutes of them walking in the door!
If you were Queen for the day what would you do?
Ooh good question. I would sit on my throne, wearing my crown, and have an Adonis like Ryan Gosling feed me grapes…and Yorkie bars…..while counting my money!!
What is the best parenting advice you’ve ever been given?
Nobody cares but you. That’s the best advice I’ve ever had, regarding parenting and life in general. Once you stop caring so much about what others think of you, life gets a whole lot easier.
What makes you happy?
My family, always. And chocolate……did I mention that I like chocolate???
What is your favourite quote or mantra for life?
It’s an Albert Camus quote, “In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer.” My life hasn’t always been easy, I’ve been through divorce, baby loss, depression, anorexia and am still battling against health issues. And yet this quote always reminds me that I can do this, that even on the days I feel like giving up, I have the strength to keep going. I have it written on the inside of every diary, just a tiny reminder that even on the darkest of days, the sun is always shining.
And finally – finish this sentence ‘I am doing a great job at this parenting lark because…’ even though I’m not the perfect parent, I am doing the best I can.
Wow thank you so much Laura for sharing so openly, honestly and beautifully with us today. You have a beautiful family and great taste in movies, adonis’ and chocolate!
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Blog Url: http://www.fivelittledoves.com