Gosh I actually can’t believe that we are in May already! This year seems to be flying by – we are practically half way through now which is quite scary actually…
I love the start of a new month; it feels like a fresh beginning, especially when the weather is finally starting to warm up a little (emphasis on the word little as despite the blue skies it’s freezing here today!) I thought I’d embrace that feeling of a new start and take a few moments out of my day to set myself some little goals for the month ahead 🙂
Sounds random right? I guess once you’re married you’ve left the ‘dating’ stage of your relationship behind, but I’m thinking more along the lines of going out on a proper ‘date’ the way you would have when you first met.
Scott and I got together when I was 17, our first date was to Greenwich – we went to the cinema to watch Pan’s Labyrinth, walked through the park drinking milkshakes and for dinner to a little Italian restaurant. After that first date we were always going out – bowling, to parties, gigs, weekends away, meals, cinema etc – of course we stayed in together too *how do you think we got Lily ;)*
I remember the excitement of getting ready to go on our dates – picking out an outfit, curling my hair, applying the glittery eye shadow that was super on-trend back in the days *this was pre the existence of contouring*, calling my friends to discuss every minute detail of my outfit and our plans and all of that nice buzzy feeling waiting for him to knock on the door.
It’s been ten years, one wedding and one beautiful daughter later and whilst we do go out it’s not labelled as a ‘date’ but I’m starting to think it should be. And so I’ve planned out a list of ways to ‘date’ my husband – it doesn’t have to be expensive nights out but I’d like to get dressed up intentionally to go out together. One of the most wonderful nights we had recently was for our anniversary last year when Scott took me to Opium Bar in Soho – we had cocktails, dim sum and I’d got dressed up (even wearing heels) for the occasion. It was exciting and fun and we both had such a good time – it’s been 7 months since then and we’ve not really done anything similar and I think it’s important that we make more time for ‘us’ as a couple not just as a family or individuals.
This weekend (between throwing up and feeling pants thanks to some kind of virus) I started sorting through our kitchen cupboards and drawer *yep you heard that right we have a single drawer in our kitchen which really annoys me* and I quickly came to realise that we have way too much stuff! Admittedly a lot of the random stuff we owned was given to us as wedding presents five years ago; despite us having a gift list we received quite a lot of random ‘things’ and household pieces, yep even two toasters, but a lot of it wasn’t to our taste or anything that we would actually use. I always felt guilty about getting rid of items that were given to us as gifts but actually it was really freeing to start to de-clutter the kitchen.
A lot of the parenting bloggers I follow and love are also ‘vloggers’ i.e they film Video Blogs for YouTube. I’m a complete YouTube addict and I love watching ‘real life’ videos, travel and home decor you-tubers and for a while now I’ve been considering whether or not I should start a YouTube channel of my own. I tested the waters last year with an update on our Fertility Journey but I took it down after I got a pretty horrible message from a family member (who is no longer part of my family FYI) and since then I’ve avoided it.
I have a really stressful job with lots of deadlines. It means I spend a lot of my time anxious and irritated and I find myself being really snappy with the people around me. It’s all made a million times worse when life outside of work gets stressful too. I’m writing this from a Glasgow coffee shop – I flew up yesterday (after a nightmare journey to the airport), tomorrow is my Uncle’s funeral and my nan (who I was supposed to be accompanying) is too ill to attend so I’ll be heading there by myself which is kicking my anxiety into overdrive. And yet here I am taking five minutes out to think about the little things that make me happy and grateful this week, and actually it’s really helping me to get a grip on myself *sometimes you really need somebody to give you a kick up the arse to remind you how blessed you really are (even if it is yourself)*…
My skin for the past six or so months has been going completely nuts – I don’t know if its simply stress, or not having the healthiest of diets, all the alcohol consumed over the last few months of 2016, the pill – or perhaps a combination of all of the above! I’ve also been getting really bad headaches and when I visited my opticians I mentioned them to him – my prescription hadn’t changed since my last appointment so he suggested that they could be due to dehydration which is something I’d never considered!
I used to spend a fortune on various products that claimed to ‘cure’ any skin issue you can imagine but as I’m cutting back on spending in order to save money and live more intentionally I have decided to forego a trip to the beauty counters of House of Fraser and instead try what could be called ‘the oldest beauty trick in the book’ – drinking more water.
I’m a big fan of water…. when it’s in the sea, or the swimming pool, or a bubble bath or refreshing shower… but to drink? Not so much! I’ve never ever really enjoyed drinking water – the taste of tap water and the fact that its unfiltered has always put me off, particularly as we live in a hard water area so drinking the water always leaves a funny taste in my mouth. Also I read up on all of the different chemicals and pesticides such as Chlorine, Fluoric acid, Aluminium Sulphate, and even hormones that can be found in unfiltered tap water – not to mention the fact that it travels through pipes that are lord knows how old and dirty.
To help with that I bought myself a Brita Fill and Go and it honestly makes such a difference to the taste of the water – the best thing is that I don’t need to wait for a traditional fridge filter jug to filter the water and these bottles don’t take up a lot of room in the fridge either. I’ve been filling mine every morning and somehow managing to drink that my lunchtime at which point I refill it again and I do the same before dinner too! I’ve been doing that for about a week now and already feel a lot more hydrated (and so does my body if the amount i’m needing to go to the toilet is anything to go by! *TMI*!) Now my challenge to myself is to drink 4 of these bottles a day – each holds 600ml so that’s 2.4 litres in total!
This year something that we, as a family, really need to concentrate on is saving money and this ties in with my quest to start living a simpler life. This is the first of many posts about ‘The Simple Life’ and is about living within our means; something I am reluctant to admit, we definitely do not do at the moment.
I’ve never been great with money, never been particularly good at saving or sticking to a budget – it was never a life skill that I picked up (oh how I wish they had taught me some useful life skills like this back at school!), even when we were a lot worse off than we are now and were a one income family I was still useless at saving money – we lived paycheck to paycheck, blowing it all in the first weeks of the month then spending the last half struggling. It’s not a pleasant feeling.