On Saturday we spent a couple of hours at a local fun fair which was raising money for local church and some local charities that run projects at Lily’s school. It was a lovely day and she had a great time with her friends. I’ve not been well and feel like I’ve not really been able to spend much quality time with my little family so it was nice to do that.
Sounds random right? I guess once you’re married you’ve left the ‘dating’ stage of your relationship behind, but I’m thinking more along the lines of going out on a proper ‘date’ the way you would have when you first met.
Scott and I got together when I was 17, our first date was to Greenwich – we went to the cinema to watch Pan’s Labyrinth, walked through the park drinking milkshakes and for dinner to a little Italian restaurant. After that first date we were always going out – bowling, to parties, gigs, weekends away, meals, cinema etc – of course we stayed in together too *how do you think we got Lily ;)*
I remember the excitement of getting ready to go on our dates – picking out an outfit, curling my hair, applying the glittery eye shadow that was super on-trend back in the days *this was pre the existence of contouring*, calling my friends to discuss every minute detail of my outfit and our plans and all of that nice buzzy feeling waiting for him to knock on the door.
It’s been ten years, one wedding and one beautiful daughter later and whilst we do go out it’s not labelled as a ‘date’ but I’m starting to think it should be. And so I’ve planned out a list of ways to ‘date’ my husband – it doesn’t have to be expensive nights out but I’d like to get dressed up intentionally to go out together. One of the most wonderful nights we had recently was for our anniversary last year when Scott took me to Opium Bar in Soho – we had cocktails, dim sum and I’d got dressed up (even wearing heels) for the occasion. It was exciting and fun and we both had such a good time – it’s been 7 months since then and we’ve not really done anything similar and I think it’s important that we make more time for ‘us’ as a couple not just as a family or individuals.
I shared this post on Facebook the other day after a colleague of mine commented that I looked exhausted, I laughed it off “well I am a mum” but it made me think… I guess in reality I AM exhausted. Not that sleep-deprived exhaustion of the newborn days, when you are suddenly handed over this tiny living person who relies on you for everything, whose body clock is all jumbled up and who cries to be fed every couple of hours; but an exhaustion that has just become a completely ingrained part of me as a working mum. I asked a few friends, “Do you feel like this too?” and the answer was a resounding “Yes!”
We are bombarded with image on TV, in films or adverts, or even from Bloggers and on Pinterest – those perfectly coiffed mums that have it all; who manage to jump on a conference call whilst their three kids eat dinner without so much as a murmured complaint about the food choice, and whose houses are always spotless and ‘visitor ready’. But that’s really not the reality of being a working mum – the reality is that, just like parenthood in general, it is really hard!
I absolutely LOVED dolls growing up – particularly Barbie, but I have to admit that as I got older I was a little worried about Lily getting into them. I guess that since I was small there has been so much more conversation about the way that dolls like that appear and the subliminal messaging it sends to our daughters about body image and to be honest I was a little torn between my own love and fond memories of playing with them and with not wanting to give Lily unrealistic expectations of body types. It doesn’t help that so many of the dolls that you see on the shelves now just look horrendous (seriously there’s no need for a ‘police officer’ doll to look like they got their outfit from Ann Summers).
Scott is really into comic books and superhero movies and Lily has definitely inherited that love from him so when we spotted that DC Comics and Mattel were releasing these DC Superhero Girl Dolls we were both thrilled – him because they were finally making superhero toys more accessible for girls and giving a message to younger girls that it was not only OK to be into comics but that their interest was being recognised, and me because here are dolls that look like more ‘normal’ – in fact their figures were designed to be the same shapes as athletes and gymnasts!
It’s almost that time of the year when dads all over the country go into panic-buying mode to organise Mother’s Day presents from their kids. If us mums are lucky we get husbands who either know our tastes perfectly or ones like mine who always ask what I would like *bonus*, I also have a daughter who LOVES to get crafty and make me gifts to treasure too and if I’m honest those are always my favourites!
I was invited by Homebase and Jane from Tea and Crafting to their #HomebaseMothers event in the Finchley Road store to have a go at creating some simple homemade gifts.
I love getting crafty, although I have to admit my projects often end up as ‘pinterest fails’, so when they said that these crafts were suitable for everybody *not to mention easy enough for kids* I figured that even I would be able to do them well! Thankfully I didn’t show myself up by making too much of a mess… well not unless you count an exploded can of fizzy drink and a smashed plant pot!
I got straight into making some cute coasters when I arrived – they were so easy to make and used just plain tiles, tissue paper or paint and PVA glue so are a real budget friendly project – in fact Lily and I will be making some more of these over the Easter holidays as I have stocked up on the white square tiles; getting a box of 44 for just £4.34, total bargain! Continue reading
Last weekend Scott, Lily and I jumped on a bus and went to explore The British Museum in London. We are lucky to live within easy travel of most of the museums in London but have never really made the most of that so we have decided to start visiting more places – particularly as most of them are free entry so it’s a relatively cheap day out!
I’m so excited to have Beth from Twinderelmo with us today to join in with the ‘This Parenting Lark’ series. Beth’s blog was one of the first parenting blogs I ever read and I love it – super inspiring!
Tell me a little bit about yourself and your family
My name is Beth and I am in my 30s. I am a married Mother of three – my son Charlie has just turned 8 and I have identical twin daughters who are 3.5. We live in Shropshire and I am a full time stay at home parent after taking voluntary redundancy from my local authority job when on maternity leave.
Tell me a little bit about your blog
I started Twinderelmo in October 2013 as a positive take on twin pregnancy. When I found out I was having the girls, google led me to believe I would definitely have them incredibly prematurely and they would be in special care for weeks weighing a few pounds. My pregnancy was the complete opposite so I wanted to try to promote that not all twin pregnancies are high risk.